Are you noticing?

I recall reading somewhere (though I do not remember where otherwise I would have quoted it here) that our children are here to teach us something about life. Wise words, indeed 😉 ? I am often reminded of this when parenting challenges arise, such as when I ran out of solutions or strategies to deal … Continue reading Are you noticing?

Independent badass

My independent streak has led me to many places, and in my memory, all good or at least, most worked out for the best. It has helped me be a better parent and child, supported my career and my sense of accomplishment. Yet I am not without a need for support, a desire for someone … Continue reading Independent badass

Don’t just sing, SING!

Singing is not just singing. It is more than a big voice, a quirky or unique voice, a love of song and expression. Because I had always wanted to, because I did before and enjoyed it, because I promised myself I would do what I love, I took a step forward. I returned to being … Continue reading Don’t just sing, SING!

I believe in you

Vulnerability and strength, two words not commonly associated with each other until recent years. Vulnerability tends to be perceived as weakness rather than strength.  And how often have I had to remind myself in the candid moments, in the times when being true to myself seemed a betrayal, when the tears flowed and the heart … Continue reading I believe in you

Open wide

“When we open ourselves wide to love, we open ourselves to every imaginable heartache as well as every conceivable joy… That has to be better than flatlining ourselves through fear… don’t you think?”

Be open to the human experience.

The Silent Eye

EKG-Green

To love and be loved… something that sits at the heart of every child. It is only as we grow that the accumulated disappointments, the rejections large and small, teach us to shield our hearts against being hurt again. We all get hurt as we grow… even the happiest childhood will carry the shadows of events, unnoticed and unintended perhaps, that have squeezed the little heart tightly. It may be no more than a ‘Not now’ from a busy parent engaged in something that is not safe for the child… with the best of intentions… but to the small person wanting to show that parent a caterpillar they found, it is a rejection. We all suffer them and learn, brick by brick, how to build a defensive barrier around our emotions.

We are taught that emotions have a time and place too. Some are socially acceptable. We can be calm…

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Music detour – Heartbeat Song & Lonely Tonight

Well for some reason I have been writing about love this week on Meanings and Musings... what love is and letting love happen. So I will go with the flow... and post this song. Enjoy!  You, where the hell did you come from? You're a different, different kind of fun And I'm so used to … Continue reading Music detour – Heartbeat Song & Lonely Tonight

Intimacy – a review

Who is the third who walks always beside you? When I count, there is only you and I together But when I look ahead up the white road There is always another one walking beside you ... But who is that on the other side of you? TS Eliot, ‘The Waste Land’   What is … Continue reading Intimacy – a review

Lighthouse and other musings

I love lighthouses… what a realisation! I cannot recall a time when I had missed an opportunity to explore one… and this time, I am dragging my children along. Approaching the lighthouse, the inescapable sense of ‘big’…perhaps the vast blue sky and roaring ocean in the background add to the sense of magnificence. Irrespective of … Continue reading Lighthouse and other musings

When facts don’t exist

It is the absence of facts that frightens people: the gap you open, into which they pour their fears, fantasies, desires.    Hilary Mantel   This empty space, the unknown, the silence... where our brain has been trained to search for proof, evidence, facts and found none.  Where do we go then?  Is it an opportunity … Continue reading When facts don’t exist

Catch me when I fall

All of us desire and long to know we are connected to someone or something meaningful and valuable to us, no matter what gender we are. One of those connections may be with our beloved.   And within this connection, there is the feeling of "I would like someone to take care of me" - at … Continue reading Catch me when I fall

See the signs

“Fiction reveals truth that reality obscures.” Ralph Waldo Emerson To a younger self... Well, do you see the signs? You have been hurt, by others or by circumstances, and you no longer trust. Can you see the walls you've built to guard and protect yourself? Can you now see the ways you have avoided being … Continue reading See the signs