Surprise, no more


I was not much good with surprises… I preferred being prepared for things and surprises didn’t allow for that. I may have changed by now… 🙂 With age, knowledge and experience, few things faze me and certainly not the ‘but I don’t have any make-up on’ or ‘I didn’t get a chance to tidy the house’ stuff.

As Paulo Coelho, one of my favourite authors, said,

I have seen many storms in my life. Most storms have caught me by surprise, so I had to learn very quickly to look further and understand that I am not capable of controlling the weather, to exercise the art of patience and to respect the fury of nature.

So when I saw the writing prompt on RonovanWrites for the previous week (yes, a little late, I say sheepishly), I set out to discover for what others had to say about surprises – an excuse to indulge my ‘nerd-ness’.

Man is always more than he can know of himself; consequently, his accomplishments, time and again, will come as a surprise to him.  ~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

This is something that I have come to realise, time and time again. In a meditative space of gratitude and evaluation of my life, I always surprise myself with how much I have done and accomplished. The saying is true, we are always our harshest critic. So it is curious to me that man still continues to be critical of others in the name of motivation and improvement, though I imagine they are the guises of self-doubt and fear. Doesn’t our own experience teach us that we and others don’t require more criticism, rather support and encouragement?

The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.   ~ Ashley Montagu

In our moments of happiness, we have only to be mindful and notice, to receive, to appreciate and to remember. Like the exuberant hugs of children, the silent glance of a lover, the gentle touch of a friend… we need only be aware of them as they seize us.

What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be.  ~ Ellen Burstyn

This is one thing which didn’t surprise me – that being alone is not lonely. I have enjoyed my space, the solitude to think, to explore, to plan, to organize… The quote also speaks of a journey taken to ‘finally discover’ this, and I hazard a guess, a journey of self-discovery, love and growth.

How ridiculous and how strange to be surprised at anything which happens in life.  ~ Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

And lastly, if we are open to the many possibilities of living, then there is no real surprise. They come, they go… and we approach them all with equanimity.


~ FlorenceT


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Romantic love is not dead…


It isn’t a blue moon tonight, is it?! I had a ‘free’ day to myself, a rare occurrence indeed. And found myself before the television after dinner, another rare occurrence…

Anyhow, I stumbled upon a rerun of the 2008 movie, ‘Nights in Rodanthe’. Being a teeny fan of Richard Gere (yes, I am showing my age), I stopped channel surfing and sat through the movie. It is an adaptation of a Nicholas Sparks book of the same name – so yes, romance and tragedy.  Of Paul and Adrienne, the movie’s main characters, Nicholas Sparks was keen to explain that love at first sight exists, that one need only spend a short time (in the story, 5 days) with another for it to serve as the foundation for THE love story of one’s life.

Further along the research way, I found excerpts of the film script, and extracted parts which explained Adrienne, the lead female character in book and movie.


And her meeting this love led to her transformation.

Rain cloud

A Dinah Washington song from the movie soundtrack – enjoy! 🙂

Happy Easter, to you and yours. Be safe!

– FlorenceT


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10 Quotes of Woman.


No woman can resist these quotes, am I right? 🙂


“The sweetest of all sounds is that of the voice of the woman we love.” Jean de la Bruyere

“One is not born a woman, but becomes one.” Simone de Beauvoir

“If you cannot inspire a woman with love of you, fill her above the brim with love of herself; all that runs over will be yours.” Charles Caleb Colton

“A woman has to live her life, or live to repent not having lived it.” D.H. Lawrence

“When in a relationship, a real man doesn’t make his woman jealous of others, he makes others jealous of his woman.” Steve Maraboli,

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.” Steve Maraboli

“After all these years, I see that I was mistaken about Eve in the beginning; it is better to live…

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New Strengths in New Friends.

Eleanor Roosevelt Quote on New Strengths

“With the new day comes new strengths and new thoughts.”-Eleanor Roosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt Quote on New Strengths

“The stress of life is the past carrying over into the present as well as the future pressing back onto today. Live in the now.” -Ronovan Hester (Your guest author for today.)


As a person of yesterdays and tomorrows colliding in the now, I find living in the now tends to be the best option for me.

For a man who lost all his memories, except for those of his son, due to a head injury, for a man who doesn’t plan ahead because he’s not certain tomorrow will be a day he will get out of bed, I lead a pretty decent life up here in the noggin.

Yes, I have a few things I ‘plan’ for, but those are long-range plans, towards which each day builds. If you had asked me two years ago if I would have a successful blog, a book about to launch, with several more in the works, I would have laughed if I had known how. I could not spell, speak, and when I did write, I would alternate which hand to use. You read that correctly, I did not know if I was right or left handed. I used both with equal ability. Eating was an interesting time. The foods given to me were the kinds you could pick up with your fingers, just in case I forgot to use the fork.

Three months later, only a month after I discovered I owned a laptop, I had written the first draft of a novel. I am not saying it was a beautiful piece of literature, but I had accomplished something. Where the rest of my body failed me, and even at times my mind, my imagination never left me.

Today, there are days I can’t walk. On those days, I do not eat for those obvious reasons. During those moments, I throw myself at the world of Romance, Adventure, History, or wherever my imagination takes me. I get looks of pity. And often times worse looks than that. I do not look on anything as a reason for pity or a cause for regret. But the day my head hit three to four surfaces on the way to the floor of my home, I count as a day of awakening.

There are places I’ve visited since that day I never would have otherwise. My son and I have visited the Amazon looking for an ancient church treasure our Scottish ancestors hid centuries ago. I’ve earned a medical degree, made a mission trip to Northern Africa, and escaped a rebel group to make it back to the love of my life. And I’ve solved murders by demon-possessed individuals in a small New England town.

On top of all of that, I’ve made friends around the world who are closer than any, except perhaps for a very few, I’ve ever made in person, with Florence being at the top of that list.

The former owl who’s feathers were hiding a beautiful mother and daughter and brain now allows me to step into her home here and share my thoughts at times because my own is a jumbled mess at times.

Don’t take that sentence for more than it is. A man can call a friend beautiful and be stating the obvious as opposed to stating something else. In this case, I am speaking about the person she is, not the physical casing that houses the wonderful person she is.

She encourages my writing. She calls me stupid when I hate my stories. She pushes me to finish a book. Moreover, she wants to see my name on a cover of my own solo book maybe even more than I do, mostly because she knows she’ll be in the acknowledgements from correcting my punctuation.

‘With the new day comes new strengths.’ Sometimes a new strength comes from within, and sometimes it may come from the other side of the world. I have the thoughts; sometimes she gives the strength I need.

Ronovan Hester Quote on Living in the Now.

Ronovan Hester is an author, with his debut historical adventure novel Amber Wake: Gabriel Falling due out in December of 2015. He shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer through his blog His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge, a new Weekly Friday Fiction Prompt Challenge, and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as

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Writer’s Quote Wednesday-Woman

Florence is a bit busy of late, I imagine you’ve noticed. And when I say busy boy do I ever mean BUSY. The above quote is something that reminds me of Florence at times. It seems as though she always has some form of pressure going on and pushes through it. But I think at times we can take people that are like that for granted.
We don’t see the pressures they are under because they take them in stride. And we don’t realize we ADD to those pressures. We think we help with our suggestions and taking over things perhaps, and I’m not simply talking about us men, I mean everyone around a person that is calm under pressure.
Family can be the secret pressure cookers to a person. Believe me, I know.
You know what happens to a tea bag that has been cooked and recooked time and time again? Figure it out.

“A man who graduated high in his class at Yale Law School and made partnership in a top law firm would be celebrated. A man who invested wisely would be admired, but a woman who accomplishes this is treated with suspicion.”

Barbra Streisand
Here is another quote that reminds me of Florence. A brilliant woman. Do you know what strong, intelligent, talented women do for men? They scare them. Men that are in professional situations with such women do everything they can to take attention and credit away from the woman. What they should be doing is working on their own abilities and taking advantage of the intelligence the woman has.
How many times do you see a relationship where you wonder, how did he end up with her? Women are often times more likely to look past a lot of things to give love. They overlook things. Nobody’s perfect, right? Nobody has to be perfect, but they should be reciprocating. I just liked that quote as I do the next one.
What I am looking forward to once Florence is able to return to a routine is her sharing her writing and her thoughts again. A frazzled brain can’t share much of anything . . . well except maybe what it’s like to have a frazzled brain and keep going. Interesting that. Florence seems to have an air of, hmm, I am trying to find the right word. Perhaps serenity is the word. I thought of using quotes about serenity today.
It takes a lot of strength to find serenity in the world of being an actively participating and functioning mother and daughter. I think we often like to help people achieve serenity when in fact the best way to help is to get out of their way.

Ronovan HesterRonovan Hester is an author, with his debut historical adventure novel Amber Wake: Gabriel Falling due out in December of 2015. He shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer through his blog His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as

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Love in practice


Love is undefinable. There may be words, strings of words for the wordsmiths among us, shapes and colours for the artists, to describe the expression or impression of love, yet its essence is mysterious and perhaps subjective.

One of my favourite quotes of all time, which I have shared here before:

“We don’t see the world as it is, we see it as we are.” ~Anais Nin

And so it is with love. How do we experience love so that we will recognize it as love, and not something else? For example, when a close one gives you solutions, do you experience it as love, care… or a slight? You know how it is… the ‘don’t you know I can solve my own problems?’ stance. Or when a dear one attempts to lighten the mood with humor, is he or she met with understanding and gratitude, or with annoyance for being belittled?

I know perhaps you may say, he or she doesn’t get me… doesn’t appreciate what I am going through. Perhaps they don’t. When does the judgment of fault or wrong ever improve a situation?

“You don’t need to justify your love, you don’t need to explain your love, you just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master.” ~Miguel Ruiz

So what I am about to say is probably my ’translation’ of love in practice. Do you agree?

  • Love involves an openness to the possibility that the other is trying;
  • Love involves a desire to impute positive intentions by your loved one;
  • Love involves the acknowledgement that perhaps the other may have good intentions (even if he or she lacks the capacity to care and love you as you wish to experience it);
  • Love involves a kindness in spirit to the other;
  • Love involves a willingness to withhold judgment and seek clarification;
  • Love involves seeing the worthiness in another;
  • Love involves accepting when you are not met, in spirit or soul, by the other without blame;
  • Love involves communication in silence, of looks and gestures without words;
  • Love involves sense of safety, of being emotionally and psychically held;
  • Love involves loving yourself enough to be capable of doing all that is before.

Herein lies the crux, the most difficult exercise of all in my view. (By the way, self-love is not synonymous with narcissism.)

Our capacity to love is infinite, and if we allow ourselves to draw from this abundant well then we can love many without taking away from another. And in here too, the love we experience adds to our loving yet it is not overflowing because there is no limit to the love we can receive.

(Without putting a damper on a post about love, when one is love then nothing negative, reducing or hateful can penetrate, yes?)

“We accept the love we think we deserve.” ~Stephen Chbosky

Be wonderful, be love.
– FlorenceT


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Finding Happiness.


Hello to all. Florence doesn’t know I’m here right now so please…don’t tell I came for a visit.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”~Oscar Wilde

I give a great deal of thought each day on achieving happiness. Actually thinking in great depth about something brings me happiness, so I guess I fulfill my quest for it each day.

Being able to devote copious amounts of time, and quiet time at that, I’ve wrestled the subject of contentment from many different sides.

To make a very long struggle short for the sake of your sanity and my strain in writing these days, I now give my oh-so-wise realization.

Determine the things that give you joy.

So often you are asked “What makes you happy?” and then, how often do you either struggle for an answer or allow your shoulders to sag and reply with, “I don’t know.”?

How can you become happy if you have no idea what it is that will make you happy?

Be firm in your quest for happiness.

Another way to say this? Don’t be ashamed to go for your happiness.

We face moments in life that are tough. Do we risk hurting a feeling of someone or put focus on the one being who will always be with us…ourselves?

By saying this am I meaning to ignore the feelings of everyone else? No. The happiness of others makes me happy and I would think would make some of you happy as well. Being surrounded by happy people makes for a happy environment.

Nurturing a happy environment of people who are willing to be and share who we all are in our natural state is something worth striving for.

Imagine a life and space where one is allowed to simply be ones self and have those around them understand there is no attempt at being off putting but instead we are simply needing moments for ourselves. We are needing moments to re-energize.

This might be something people call as being selfish. I think that word is over used. The word selfish is often used by those who are wishing to gain something from or disagree with the person they are claiming is selfish.

“People fail to realize that in order for one to be happy with you, they must first be happy with themselves.”~Ronovan

If being you and being happy does no one harm, then there you go.

Much Respect

Ron_LWIRonovan is an author, and blogger who shares his life as an amnesiac and Chronic Pain sufferer though his blog His love of poetry, authors and community through his online world has lead to a growing Weekly Haiku Challenge and the creation of a site dedicated to book reviews, interviews and author resources known as

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Just because…


This is most apt for my post on going through difficult times. Now if I had found this quote, I would not have had to write the post 🙂 Well, not really…

just because

Food for thought … if you wish it for the weekend.

– FlorenceT


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