Fire and Ice – a poem

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Some say the world will end in fire,
Some say in ice.
From what I’ve tasted of desire
I hold with those who favor fire.
But if it had to perish twice,
I think I know enough of hate
To say that for destruction ice
Is also great
And would suffice.
~ Robert Frost

 

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To see possibilities…

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What bliss… to be delighted by what is, to be impassioned with what will be; this deeply felt knowing that the world is beautiful in spite of the human condition and perhaps because of it 🙂

Wishing you boundless possibilities!

– FlorenceT

 

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Haiku Challenge 54 Seek your freedom @RonovanWrites

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RonovanWrites Haiku Challenge 54 with prompt words – Free, Think

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Think my dear, you must
The future is yours to grasp
Free your mind to dream,
Soar above the human plight
Where fear doesn’t taint, love must be.

– FlorenceT

 

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Haiku Challenge 51 @RonovanWrites – Future, Give

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RonovanWrites Haiku Challenge #51 – Future, Give

 

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Future with its gifts
Exhilarating, joyous
Previous loss a blip.

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 Your future is not
A concern, a gift it’s not
I don’t give a toss

– FlorenceT

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A feminist – He & She

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Gender stereotypes affect both women and men.

How?  Watch this enlightening video of Harry Potter girl’s (Emma Watson) speech at the United Nations for UN Women.

 

 

So men, join women in supporting feminism.   Be a feminist – who, by definition, is a person who believes and supports women and men to have equal economic, social, and political rights and opportunities.

Let’s look to a future where our sisters, our daughters will not be ‘less’ or ‘can only be’ just because they are women, where our brothers, our sons will cease being ‘not enough’ just because they are men.

Personally I hope my children get the message of gender equality… well, they are on my ‘brainwashing program’ :-). But seriously, I believe my role as parent and guide requires me to educate and role-model respect for and embracing of difference, to appreciate the diversity and uniqueness of each of us, to refuse to polarize humanity into right and wrong, better and lesser.  To do that, there will be the need to question the dominant paradigm of sexism, and to take a stand for equality of the sexes.

I look to a time when my ‘brainwashing program’ will no longer be required.

What do you do or how do you be, in your life in order to say ‘yes’ to gender equality?

– FlorenceT

 

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Making meaning of our life stories

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question markMaking meaning of our life stories” – that’s my tag line, and it occurred to me that I’ve not spoken to it.

Our lives are made up of memories, which are in effect stories, narratives which were told and remembered. These narratives, created by us and others, in turn have created our life, in how we think of or remember our lives thus far.  They give meaning.  And these narratives or stories also in some ways shape our perception of how our life stories are unfolding and how the future stories will be told.

Ever had the weird experience of being told two very different stories only to realize it derives from the same event?  Then you’ll pretty much figure out that these two story-tellers would attach different meanings to this event, and interpret them into their lives in different ways.

The stories we, and others, tell of our lives (and thus us) impact significantly on how we perceive, behave, interpret; and how we live.  It is not just the negative stories I am referring to, even the apparently positive ones have their sway.

woman in glassesI grew up being praised for my academic prowess.  I worked hard, put in lots of effort, and was relentless in my pursuit of excellence.  They were, I was led to believe, the reasons for my success.  I somehow did not quite believe I was intelligent, no matter what my successes.  Without hard work and effort, I would certainly fail.  Let me clarify – when I say hard work and effort I meant HARD WORK AND EFFORT, all the time.  No idleness, I was told!  I recall references to being ‘not really intelligent’ but ‘she works hard’.  So this was one of my stories – which led me to a life of busy-ness, too afraid to relax, always vigilant, just in case I missed life’s ‘opportunities’.  Don’t misunderstand, I do enjoy mental and intellectual stimulation, and I appreciate the work ethic my parents have instilled in me and the importance of having a goal in life.

But (there is always a ‘but’) I have now realised I am indeed intelligent and creative (now, that’s a story for another time!) – that I can ‘wing it’ if I choose to do so, and brilliantly if I may add.  It’s such comfort to have less of the stress and anxiety surrounding a fear for not putting enough effort, for not having worked hard enough and fail. I am far from being a sloth, however I am less hooked on this story of ‘hard work and effort’, and instead realising and/or acknowledging other stories that I fancy. A bit of self-love here 🙂

self loveI have many stories which I have had to fulfill, some of my choosing, some not – stories which require me to be the good girl, the dutiful daughter, the responsible one, the be-like-a-man woman of the world, the self-sacrificing mother… the list goes on.

Be aware of being stuck with any particular story for your life! It may serve others to tell a certain story of you.. be it of a victim, a survivor, the dependable one, the sick one, the weak one, the capable one… Will you let them?  Do you know yourself?

So making meaning is twofold – to re-tell the stories of old in our own words; and to tell the stories which have so far been untold (or ignored) so they can become a  part of our life.

I am conscious now of what and whose stories I am fulfilling… and I am pragmatic.  One story for now – my children need me to be an available mother, and I do so willingly and happily.  And I also know a time will come when this story ends.  And I am also choosing to write my own stories…

What life stories have bound you?  book

What stories will you re-tell now in your words?

What stories untold will you tell now?

Which stories will set you free?

 

Wishing you discernment,
– FlorenceT

Trust and let go

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‘Trust in the universe’ is a much used phrase.  Is trusting in something so intangible or unverifiable ‘trust’ or is it ‘faith’? Well, sometimes all we can do is believe – believe that our children will be alright, believe that she loves you in spite of the odds, believe that what happened has a reason, a purpose.

Trust is not living in the land of reciprocity, necessitating an expectation of being given back.  It is believing that what we have given is enough, that we have enough to give; and that no matter the outcome, we are going to live now.

Trust is believing that once we have done all we can, the outcome will take care of itself – that it is what it is, beyond our control. So let go – let go our attachment to a future we expect, we desire, but has minimal control over.

Make the most of what we have now, in this moment, for every moment of our lives.  Let the future announce its plans!

Breathe, trust, let go and live!

Namaste!
– FlorenceT