Imperfections

For the ones who neglect themselves, who prioritize others' wellbeing, remember. It is not a selfish act to work on your own selves. In and through your growth, you embody and model, inspire and en-courage others to their better selves. You are better able to be in relationships that serve and nurture. Food for thought … Continue reading Imperfections

Independent badass

My independent streak has led me to many places, and in my memory, all good or at least, most worked out for the best. It has helped me be a better parent and child, supported my career and my sense of accomplishment. Yet I am not without a need for support, a desire for someone … Continue reading Independent badass

praises & criticisms

“You look 30!” she said, and a certain gladness filled my heart. And almost instantaneously a denial made its way from my mind. But this time, it did not pass my lips. Instead I smiled and thanked her, for the kindness she’d shown and grateful for the uplifting moment. It is alright to receive praise, … Continue reading praises & criticisms

Scent and authenticity

I fell in love with it on its first release in mid-2000s and it has been with me ever since. The Bulgari “Rose Essentielle” fragrance evoked romance and glamour, and it was a departure from my then attraction to citrus tones. But recently, I decided I needed a change. Why? Just because. It was an … Continue reading Scent and authenticity

Yes, finding my groove

I said, “never”. And for the past 6 years I had been true to it. Never calling myself that, never wanting to investigate the possibilities, never acknowledging I am in fact damn good at it. After a while, pride also got in the act ensuring I did not depart from my word, “never”. Years passed, … Continue reading Yes, finding my groove

Our darkness in light

How often have you stopped yourself from saying or doing something because you don’t want to seem like a fool or just plain “bad”? I have. And how often have we made a call that someone is “dumb” or “mean”? And then later hesitate before we speak or act to avoid being referred to as … Continue reading Our darkness in light

I shall not be moved

I have been spending quite a bit of time lately exploring some "what it means to be human" essentials such as compassion, kindness, vulnerability, courage, stillness, to name a few. And no surprise, this part of Maya Angelou's poem "I shall not be moved" keeps calling... so I am sharing it. Hope it speaks to … Continue reading I shall not be moved

My feisty inheritance

This is my inheritance. Many years ago, I undertook some research on my family history. As I gathered stories of fortune and poverty, successes and failures, personal determination and resignation, love and loss across 4 generations, I was looking at the ties that bind and the destruction of connection and belonging. I saw a family … Continue reading My feisty inheritance

It is done.

It is done. I opened them. I found two boxes in my garage a few weeks ago, brought them into my bedroom and there they sat. Gut instinct said “this is important”. Yet I could not open them. Until I was compelled to on the eve of the review date. The review date for an … Continue reading It is done.

The Crone and I

“All futures are tinted by the way in which you choose to view them.” Cat Hellisen 'Mother, Crone, Maiden'   What image pops into your head when you hear the word ‘crone’? What characteristics do you associate with this female archetype? Does she remind you of the 3 witches in ‘Macbeth’, ‘fire burn and cauldron … Continue reading The Crone and I

Binary choice

It took years. This search for the answer to “who am I?” She doubts if she is any closer to the truth, assuming there is one. Each time she thought she was near, the road lengthened. She felt a sense of belonging in her world, moving within it with ease and confidence, only to be … Continue reading Binary choice

Darker, by fifty shades?

The text message read (in part): “Ok who’s keen? Note it is next week!!!!.... We will follow this with a debriefing over drinks…” I replied ‘me’ and why not? I am honestly curious as to how it will be. On a social side, how could I refuse the opportunity to catch up with a few … Continue reading Darker, by fifty shades?

The politics of water

“There are these two young fish swimming along and they happen to meet an older fish swimming the other way, who nods at them and says "Morning, boys. How's the water?" And the two young fish swim on for a bit, and then eventually one of them looks over at the other and goes "What … Continue reading The politics of water

Once a mother…

“One day someone calls her “Mother”. That is what she remains for the rest of her life.” Cao XueQin What a profound quote. And one which is open to many interpretations. What does it mean to you? You women who are mothers, and who are not? Men who have known Mothers in your life?  What … Continue reading Once a mother…

A woman, loss and politics

I cannot escape this sense of loss, this great sorrow. I am woman, and that alone is enough to speak to the many ways in which I am deeply disappointed by the outcome of the US election. I realised the energy, the hope I had invested to see a woman make it in what is … Continue reading A woman, loss and politics

Women friends

Four women around a table, laden with scrumptious food and champagne. Conversations filled with laughter, some angst and silliness; bound by a connection which began more than 10 years ago. How did they get to this place of ease with each other? They first met when 2 mothers were invited to post-drop-off coffee by another … Continue reading Women friends