Letting go of the need for attention, appreciation and approval.
The key word is “need”. Everyone enjoys attention, appreciation and approval. I know I do.
But it is not for them that I do what I do. I hope it is not because of them that I am who I am.
Within me is a world of needs to be satisfied – curiosity, intellectual challenge, to do no harm, contribution to a greater good, being considered, to be fair, maintaining integrity in what I do, to broaden instead of constricting my world, just to name a few. They do not rest on others’ attention, appreciation or approval.
I know this, my focus may be external, my motivation is internal. Mostly. Flawed human that I am.
I cannot remember exact moments when I learned to let go. Though I do know the lessons were learnt in the difficult moments of my life, when I realised I have little to no control over certain circumstances. And I also realized then that there are many aspects I can influence, and it is to these my attention goes.
Letting go is not giving up, nor is it passive. It is a mental and emotional state of awareness, which guide our actions.
I am still learning to let go in different aspects of life.
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