Living life, Opinion, The Self

We got to go through it

We can’t go over it
We can’t go under it
Oh no, we got to go through it!
Excerpt from ‘We’re going on a bear hunt

Today, I am acutely aware this is how we sometimes must approach life.

“We’re going on a bear hunt” is one of my favourite children’s books. Our copy is kept safe in a box of ‘Books to keep’, waiting to be displayed when the bookcase is built. Its hard cover survived two toddlers and their nightly use for some 7 years.

Then, I had found the rhythm of the writing addictive, filled with spaces for imagination and exploration, and a storyline that is soothing (for me, at least). The kids giggled their way through the nightly reading of this book, and eventually we had it memorized. When asked if she remember it, my daughter S smiled and recited the three lines above. It seems this book holds great memories.

Little did I know I would also find a life lesson.

Whitman quoteSometimes we can’t go over it – stepping over it in our bid to ignore, to avoid; hoping it’ll be alright in the end or that we can bear it, cope with it, handle it. Words that to some extent comfort us and excuse us from looking within, from seeing our light, our truth. To live with integrity, perhaps we must not just ‘go over it’.

Sometimes we can’t go under it – allowing ourselves to be brought low, believing that we are less than, that we are not worthy, that we are not enough. There are times when there are more at stake, when we must dig into our deepest reserves and find that little nugget of courage, will, desire to greet the dawn. It is then we know who we truly are, that we did not ‘go under it’.

And so we got to go through it. Whatever ‘it’ may be. My intention is to do so with grace and dignity, with love and compassion, with courage and insight.

But why must these days happen to us? Because there are lessons to be learnt, not punishments or consequences, but lessons pure and simple. We may not know what they are, perhaps even for some years to come. And the lessons can only be learnt if we open our hearts to them – let go of anger and resentment, free ourselves from the grip of fear for they will not give space for these lessons.

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And lessons will repeat themselves until they are learnt. A cliché? I don’t believe so. It is the patterns in our life which unless we break out, will perpetuate whether a relationship or a behaviour or a thought process …

So how do we go through it? I have no universal one-size-fits-all answer, except I suspect it involves some ‘doing’ and a whole lot of ‘being’.

In moments when you need answers,

Breathe and drop your awareness into your heart space…
Within you is your knowing.

Hold the possibilities lightly, play with them a little… you will know the answer and the lesson’s learnt when you are at peace.

And one day soon, I promise you, you will sing a love song to yourself and your life, and wonder why ever did you doubt.

– FlorenceT


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6 thoughts on “We got to go through it”

  1. I’ve found that people often think what my possibilities should be are what they want them to be. That is when one must show strength of character and honesty to self. It is easy to do and be to make others happy, but to do to make ones self happy in the face of all those who have their own opinions and expectations of what happiness and accomplishment is, that is the ultimate moment of bravery.

    Dude, I got all thinky. Wait, Dudette not Dude.


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