Contemplate, Living life, Spirit & Soul, The Self

Alone and being

To be open to creativity, one needs the capacity for constructive use of solitude. One must overcome the fear of being alone.         Rollo May

Let’s face it, to be alone triggers undesired thoughts to surface then, there is nowhere to hide, little to distract us from our doubts. There are days when keeping busy is the only way to delay, to avoid what must be faced. So we inbue our alone-time with busy-ness, with activities that prevent us from facing the truth, making it alright for us to not see, hear, feel.

“With everything happening today
You don’t know whether you’re coming or going

Uh, I see the truth in your lies
I see nobody by your side
But I’m with you when you are all alone
And you correct me when I’m looking wrong
I see the guilt beneath the shame
I see your soul through your window pane
I see the scars that remain
I see you … I’m looking at the…

Mirror on the wall, here we are again…”

Today is one such day… where the impetus has been to keep busy. And taking heed of the dis-ease deep within, I stopped. I made myself a pot of green tea and took myself to my healing space. The sun is shining through the glass windows, I can hear the trickling of water and birds chirping – all is good with my world. Oh but the quiet is deafening! I gave myself permission then to delve into and to sit with those unsettling thoughts and feelings.

My time alone has centred me as I arrive to this space of knowing – that the Universe will unfold as it will and there is nothing I need to do.  There is no right or wrong with those thoughts and feelings, merely for me to reconcile with them, to allow space for positive expression.

writing solitude

So I write.  I wish for those who have yet to realise their need for alone-time to experience the renewal and power of gathering onto themselves. Perhaps it is only I who see such a need, but I doubt it.

Don’t get me wrong, I love being in the world, interacting with people.  But there is a noticeable difference between needing to be involved in activities to avoid and being a social being – the difference between the frenetic energy which drains as opposed to the ease of being.

Being alone can be a strange experience…it is what we crave and also what we abhor.  Many, like me, grasp the opportunity to be alone, seeking space for self-reflection and to create, yet fear is also present.  I believe being alone, or to be precise, the capacity to be alone, requires self-assuredness and courage.

Will you give yourself some time to gather yourself?


Contrary to first impression, the lyrics in this song have such raw emotions and honesty… try it. 🙂

(Thank you RonovanWrites for your insightful feedback which I have incorporated in the changes made to this article.)


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