A different love letter…

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A letter of love which is somewhat different from the love letters (or emails or texts) that are being written now.  This letter is from 17th century Japan. 

Listen to the language of destiny, where ’till death do us part’ had greater significance, and the voice of dedication, and in particular, gratitude in love.

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This letter was extracted from ‘Letters of Note: Correspondence deserving of a wider audience‘, compiled by Shaun Usher. I did a book review on LitWorldInterviews about this book, if you are interested.

Wishing you Love,
– FlorenceT

 

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Love relationships for Valentine’s Day

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On such a day, I am compelled to write. But of what?

I could write about

  • the commercialism of this day known as Valentine’s Day
  • love renewed because of the call of Valentine’s Day
  • affection expressed when compelled by Valentine’s Day
  • faith in another inspired by Valentine’s Day
  • romanticism, cynic or believer, occasioned by Valentine’s Day
  • the many creative products from the idea of love which inspires Valentine’s Day
  • going through the day unaffected by Valentine’s Day
  • those who are hurt or disappointed on this day and why
  • those who find meaning on this symbolic day.

Love exists in a myriad of relationships, not just those of a romantic nature which seems to be the focus of Valentine’s Day.

So for today, an exploration of love in relationships through meaningful quotes. Perhaps you will find one which resonates within.

Motherhood: All love begins and ends there. ~ Robert Browning

 

Do I want to be a hero to my son? No. I would like to be a very real human being. That’s hard enough.  ~ Robert Downey, Jr.

 

The reason grandchildren and grandparents get along so well is that they have a common enemy. ~ Sam Levenson

 

We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone.  ~Orson Welles

 

The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own. ~ Benjamin Disraeli

 

Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea. ~ Robert A. Heinlein

 

Nature always wears the colors of the spirit. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone – we find it with another. ~ Thomas Merton

 

To have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim you don’t grab hold of the water, because if you do you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float. ~ Alan Watts

 

None of these is possible, unless we are in a love relationship with ourselves, as it is a necessary foundation upon which other relationships flourish.

Don’t wait for someone to bring you flowers.
Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul.
~ Maria Quintana

 

Whether Valentine’s Day is significant to you or just another day, it means something.

May you have courage to romance yourself, love all that you are.


~ FlorenceT

 

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Shades lighter #Haiku Challenge 135 @RonovanWrites

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What can I say except “it was unimpressive”.

I know it is not meant to be an award winning movie, rather entertainment with a profit-making purpose (as with any movie made).

It stayed with the central theme of the book, the romance and complex relationship between an apparent young entrepreneur with a dark side and an innocent naïve young woman seeking to maintain her independence.

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What struck me about this sequel “Fifty Shades Darker” is the moderation of the dominating character of Christian Grey. He has lost his edge and the ‘darkness’ that consumed him. There went the ‘bad boy’. Darker? I think not. Perhaps the film-maker had heeded the outcry that followed the first movie “Fifty Shades of Grey” – that it promoted the physical domination and subjugation of a woman for a man’s pleasure, that it was alright for Ana to be abused – and thus toned it down.

So now we have the tortured soul that is Christian Grey, a man wanting to please, to change in order keep his love; a proud man who would fall on his knees begging for her to stay. As Christian said, he is not a dom, rather a sadist taking pleasure in the pain of others, a trait he would willingly forgo for Ana. And he did. Ah, okay. Love is powerful, it conquers all. Fairytale? You bet, and not a convincing one.

It was more explicit than the first movie in its sexual portrayals though I dare say, not erotic. Somehow the sexual tension is lost, the chemistry between Christian and Ana is lacking. Vanilla.

This movie tries to please, but I am uncertain which audience. It turned out to be neither romance nor erotic and least of all, suspense. Yes, it was painful and not in that way 😉

What is intended to be intense erotic content felt voyeuristic and icky. Here is IMDB’s list of best sensually romantic erotic movies – call it research if you must.

By the way, I did enjoy an evening of movie and drinks with “the girls”, having a laugh. Thank goodness for great company, which more than made up for the lacklustre movie.

And now a haiku, for RonovanWritesHaiku Challenge 135 which can serve as an ode to Christian 🙂

 

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~ FlorenceT

 

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Darker, by fifty shades?

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The text message read (in part):

“Ok who’s keen? Note it is next week!!!!…. We will follow this with a debriefing over drinks…”

I replied ‘me’ and why not? I am honestly curious as to how it will be. On a social side, how could I refuse the opportunity to catch up with a few girlfriends and watch “Fifty Shades Darker” on Ladies’ Night at the cinema :-)? On a ‘serious’ side, this is me engaging with pop culture? 🙂

The novelty of “Fifty Shades” seems to have worn off, or at least the upcoming release of this sequel hasn’t created the uproar as Fifty Shades of Grey’s release in 2015. So much so that I wrote a post on LitWorldInterviews protesting about the protest.

Perhaps I am speaking prematurely. The movie will officially be released on 9 February 2017 here in Australia, so let’s wait and see what the movie reviewers and social commentators have to say.

In the meantime, I am up for the lighter (or is it darker?) side of life, a laugh and giggle with girlfriends at the romanticized collision of the BDSM and fairy tale worlds.

Now, what would I say to questions such as these?

Why would she let him do that?

What is so appealing about Christian?

Can’t she see he’s just all about him, or is he?

What would you say to Ana if she was your daughter?

Ouch, right?

Does Christian’s childhood really turn him into someone with such sexual proclivities?

Is it real love or is it…?

And how could he still be friends with Elena after what she’s done to him?

Was Christian really a victim to Elena?

I am anticipating these questions because I have read the trilogy. I have little doubt these questions will feature in our ‘debriefing’ post-movie.

What are your answers?

And perhaps I will ‘report’ on the movie experience once I have watched it. I can only hope the movie plot line has improved since the previous one was rather ‘light’ on this front.

What the heck, I’ll just go for the ride and have fun! 🙂

 

With curiosity,

~ FlorenceT

 

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Pleasures #Haiku Challenge 134 @RonovanWrites

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RonovanWrites Haiku Challenge 134 with prompt words – Blow, Please

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As you please, I will

Bow before the pleasures felt

Till fear blows away.

~ FlorenceT

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@FTThum #BookReview ‘The Dinner’ by Herman Koch

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Interesting premise, as I read the ‘blurb’ on the back cover. So here goes.

the-dinnerTitle:          The Dinner
Author:        Herman Koch
Translator:    Sam Garrett
Publishers:     Atlantic Books, UK (August 2012)
Format:          Kindle, Paperback
Pages:             320
Genre:           Fiction – Contemporary; Literary Fiction

What’s it about?

‘The Dinner’ is Dutch author, Herman Koch’s 2nd book published in 2009 and translated to English in 2012. It has been adapted for film (US), to be released in 2017 starring Richard Gere and Laura Linney. I for one will be watching it. Why? Because the book is intriguing, and I do want to see if it has been translated well to screen and how the characters are portrayed in the film.

The plot appears simple. Two couples – brothers…

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Love can bring out the best in you

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“You bring out the best in me”, many says when in love while many others quest for the ‘you’ that would bring out the best in them.

Ever wonder how you would bring out the best in me, and vice versa?

Psychotherapists speak of “the gaze”. The gaze of acceptance of your flaws, the gaze that speaks of your ‘perfection’ in another’s eyes. I know the value of non-judgment and acceptance, of seeing the best of my clients.

That is a necessary but insufficient condition. Do we not also see the potential? I certainly do, and my job is to facilitate a journey of self-awareness, that my clients may also see their potential, their resources, their abilities… and take personal action towards it. I am not attached to a particular manner of journey-ing for I cannot walk their paths for them; nor can I appoint the destination. But this does not prevent me from encouraging the process of self-awareness.

As with my clients, and perhaps more so I see potential in my loved ones. And is it my ‘job’ then to also facilitate their journey of self-awareness? Why would I not, in my love for them?

And as a recipient of their love and thus their gaze, should I revel at being seen, to their belief that I possess potentialities? Should I not welcome a loved one’s encouragement and teaching? Perhaps then we may be at our best and with each other?

So then why is it that often, the “encouragement and teaching” are perceived as criticisms and unnecessary feedback? Why do we lament that “s/he should accept me for who I am” … when we can be more than who we are? Don’t we want to be the best we can be for ourselves, and for our loved ones? Encouragement and teaching do not equate to non-acceptance or worse, rejection.

In the dance of love, each has the responsibility to teach and to learn to perfect our part in the dance.

Love is to be the safety within which we explore our Selfs together.

 

~ FlorenceT

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Fire and Ice – a poem

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Some say the world will end in fire,
Some say in ice.
From what I’ve tasted of desire
I hold with those who favor fire.
But if it had to perish twice,
I think I know enough of hate
To say that for destruction ice
Is also great
And would suffice.
~ Robert Frost

 

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